Manifesting Regrets?

<crossposted from www.goodvibeblog.com>

Have you ever found yourself repeatedly wishing that you didn’t have to go this job? Or to bed with this man? Or raise these children? Or clean this house? Or attend this family get-together?

And then did you ever find the job pulled out from under you, the man making his exit, custody of the kids challenged, or the family ignoring you?

I sure have.

Some of my clients complain that Universe only delivers on the stuff they didn’t really want. We know that’s not true. It just seems true because of where our focus is and what our vibe is lined up with.

Which is good incentive to switch up the focus and upgrade the vibe, huh?

When I was engulfed in my miserable corporate job, I fantasized about not having to return to it EVER. “Take This Job and Shove It” was my favorite tune. I hummed it every day on the way to the bus stop while I left my happy dogs at my comfy home to pound my way through another life-draining day in the working world. All I wanted was out.

And then my manager wrote me up for something ridiculous, and it became clear he intended to fire me at his first legal opportunity.

That created up a whole new vibe for me - dread and misery was replaced with fear and anger, sprinkled with resentment. Topped off with even more fear. (Thank you gremlins for that tasty treat.)

All of a sudden I not only wanted this job, I needed it!

I wasn’t LOA savvy enough to realize I’d ordered this up; that Universe had heard my “take this job and shove it” instruction and could only deliver it in a way that matched my “miserable” vibe - by getting fired.

Fire me?! I was the most employable person on the planet! Who in their right mind would try to unload me?!

Nope, there was nothing good about my energy; thus Universe had no room to deliver a nice easy exit - which it clearly heard me wanting.

- I could have avoided that disgraceful exit by changing my focus, which would have shifted the vibe.

- I could have been grateful for the continuing stream of paychecks that allowed me to get finances in order, preparing for more financial leeway in life.

- I could have looked forward to the co-workers I spent each day with, and the clients I’d grown to love over the years (still do).

- I could have appreciated the garden of flowers right outside my workplace, where I spent lunch hours reading.

But I didn’t.

I know better now, which is why I’m sharing this with those of you who are unhappy with something in life. Universe will bring change, but it won’t be pleasant if you don’t improve the vibe.

Just ask my client who fantasized about getting a year off her high pressure career to focus on herself, and days later was in a motorcycle accident that left her bedridden for exactly one year - plenty of time to focus on herself.

Or my client who dreamed of escaping the hassles of single parenthood, whose ex-husband sued for full custody.

Or how I used to dread family dinners because they were so upsetting, and very soon I was upset because I stopped getting invited to them.

Until we learn to manage the vibe, our roads will continue to include unnecessary bumps and bruises.

This post is long enough, so I’m tossing it to you now … would love to hear your thoughts and experiences!