It's Not You, (Really) It's Me
Posted on Oct 30th, 2007
by
Jeannette
(cross posted from LOA for the Real World)
Holy Hannah - sometimes I freak myself out! I just flipped through my notebook for a client quote to include in this new post I was going to write, and happened to run across the list I made a few months ago of what I wanted in my next web developer.
I just now realized the person I hired last month is all that AND a bag of chips!! I mean, to read this page and a half list of traits including:
- personable
- so knowledgeable
- great reputation
- very responsive
- proactive
- supportive
- tactful
- great new ideas
- 'gets' me
- loves animals
- refers perfect clients my way
- teaches me
- gives extra value
- is fun to work with
- easy to understand
- goes the extra mile
- appreciates my business
But here she is in real living life - working on MY site & blog. (& ecourse. I'm getting her in on that ecourse someday, too.)
I got exactly what I wanted. It's freaky! Even after all this time, it still amazes me how we get just what we ask for. In REALLY strange ways!! (If she gives me the good word to share her contact info, I'm all over it.)
WOW.
I had one majorly screwed up vibe on web people for a while. After my fourth service provider, I realized - hello - it's not them; it's me. So before I hired my fifth person I knew I had some cleaning up to do.
Which I've been aware of all year long. I was easy on myself for this work. I didn't require overnight change; rather gave myself plenty of time to develop a new expectation and thought pattern about web people.
Which is also why my site doesn't give a link to this blog - that's how long I've been out a web person.
(What are they really called? It's probably not "web person." Sorry, web people! Web designer? Web maintainer? Web expert? I don't know.)
Anyway, I'm officially proclaiming myself free and clear of that old vibe, and LOVING the new one I've got going!! WOO HOO!!
Does that mean everything will go perfectly from here on out? Well, probably, but I'm not going to be flustered if it doesn't. Sometimes there are bumps in the road; that's fine, it won't cause me careening off the path if we hit one.
Okay, I'll get back to the post I was really going to type up.
Before I go, let me ask what vibe are you cleaning up? Have you got one that consistently delivers what you don't want? Maybe you get incompetent wait service or ..
... oh, stop me now! lol ... I was just about to list a whole bunch of possibilities of what we might have bad vibes on. (No need to activate THAT.)
You are spared!
Bottom line, if you've got a subject that consistently brings trauma or drama to your life, consider perhaps it's not them - but rather your vibe that's responsible. Let them off the hook, clean up your vibe, and move on to the good stuff. It's all waiting there for us when we just take the time to get aligned. : )

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